#momfail

We've all been there. 

Have you ever yelled at your kids? 

Perhaps you spoke harshly to your husband or uttered a negative comment that wasn’t called for.  

Our moods and attitudes affect not only how we behave but also what we think. When we are rude to others we usually take time to reflect, apologize and repair the relationship.  When we give ourselves a hard time, we rarely take the time necessary to repair that damage.

Now is the time to stop beating yourself up.

Stop being miserable.

And stop being so hard on yourself!

It accomplishes nothing.  We can be much harder on ourselves than anyone else. Sometimes we say things to ourselves we would never dream of saying to someone else.  

It’s hard to start at the top if you are feeling like you're on the bottom.  It’s hard to take on a big task or feel good about yourself when you are continually carrying on a negative conversation in your head. You need to make a change to stop the vicious downward cycle.  

“If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always got.”

A good place to start is to get some positivity flowing into your mind.  Consider the last thing you achieved – however small it was. Focus on the effort you put in and the results you got.  Sometimes the small things are the most difficult.  Perhaps it was a time you found something special to praise your child about on a day they were trying your patience. Maybe something you did at work that no one else wanted to tackle. Or you got more accomplished around the house that you expected.  Whatever it was, it should show you that you are capable.  Use this to build on.  

Tomorrow is a new day and you can achieve even more.

It is important to give yourself a pat on the back when you achieve something – no matter what the milestone.  Talk to yourself the way you would encourage a good friend.  A bestie who needs a little encouragement, a good friend who needs a boost.  

Incorporate some small treats into your normal day.  

Tiny little things so your soul feels nourished – a nice hot bath, 15 minutes to yourself with a cup of coffee or a book, a box of chocolates and some flowers – the things you would imagine your dear friend would enjoy.  Just remember who has carried you to today...who has brought you to where you are now.  However hard things may be and however many mistakes or regrets you may have made, you are still here today!

You are an amazing individual who has overcome adversity and has done her best.

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